A Moment in Time – 11:21 a.m. on 1/4/14

The next A Moment in Time is on Saturday, January 4 at 11:21 a.m.

A Moment in TimeHere is how A Moment in Time works.

1. I will provide a time–an exact moment on a specific day–for bloggers to be aware of, to think about what they are/were doing right then and whether it’s significant enough, in some way, to be written about and added to the list. (Each moment IS significant; you just need to find out how and why.) The day and moment will be provided via a regular blog post as well as at the bottom of the A Moment in Time page.

2. Sometime after that moment passes, write your post. Title it with this format:  11:21 a .m. on 01/04/14

3. Let your readers know how to find the A Moment in Time prompt by providing a link to this post so that they can learn more about it and participate themselves. If it’s easier, just copy and paste the blurb below.

A Moment in Time is a shared blogging experience, where writers document and share their stories from the same moment on the same day. The day and time for the next A Moment in Time is posted by Randee every few days in such a way that you’ll have a heads up on the exact moment to which you need to attend and focus on and, if it’s significant in some way, write about and add to the list.11.21

4. Add the link to your post as a comment below AND/OR include the link to this prompt post if you want your post to appear in the list of those participating. This will make it easier for others who are contributing to find and read your writing as well as for you to locate theirs.

5. Have fun! Make connections! Cherish each moment!

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9:16 a.m. on 12/21/13

Are we playing ball in the morning? Jim texted me. It was our standard Saturday morning thing to do. Play racquetball and be home in time to do whatever it was that was planned for that Saturday.

No! We’re sleeping in! was my reply. This was no standard Saturday. This was the first day of Christmas Break, the first day of two weeks off from school and work (school for my daughters, one in the same for me). But, I realize every year, not the first day off of 14 for most people. Most can be home on Christmas Day and New Year’s Day, perhaps the eves of the two, as well, but not much more. And some will work right through the holiday.

So I stayed up a bit later than usual Friday night. Not only was I planning on sleeping in, but it had been an emotionally charged day and falling asleep as usual was difficult:

–taking my second graders to the Nutcracker, many of whom had never been to live theater, and watching their enthralled faces

–throwing a goodbye party for my student teacher, satisfied that he is prepared to go out into the world and be a fine educator of young children

opening the letter from Rotary Youth Exchange that said my daughter would spend her junior year of high school in France

The last, of course, had me in quite a state and it was impossible for me to function normally for hours after reading it. I was still wound up long past bedtime.

Regardless, I was awake at 4:20 a.m. on Saturday, almost on the dot of my standard 4:30 a.m. wake up time. It was the perfect opportunity to snuggle in bed with my dog and do some reading and writing.

Jim was awake,  too, at his house and he noticed my presence online.

How’s that sleeping in thing treating ya?

I’m going back to sleep here in a bit I texted back. And I did. I was drowsy again by 5:30. Reading and writing first thing in the morning will do that to me.

And–I wasn’t really expecting this–I didn’t wake up again until 9:20 a.m! I rarely sleep that late. I know I was emotionally drained, but still! I slept right through the 9:16 moment in time. 9.16

When I awoke and realized what time it was, that I had slept several hours longer than I normally do, I was grateful. Grateful for the breaks that my job affords me, grateful for the time to regroup and renew my energy. Thankful for the opportunity to catch up in other areas of my life.

Time off. Time to relax. Time to do whatever it is we feel like doing. The opportunity to break out of our routine. We all need it. It’s healing, it’s refreshing, it’s a necessity for discovering new things about ourselves.

My wish, then, is that this same opportunity can be granted to everyone. Whether it’s an hour or two, a day, or several, I hope you all get some time to yourself, or extra time with a project or loved ones or whatever it is you want to devote those precious moments to. Time is a gift, the most precious gift.

Just be sure to stop, breathe, take it all in, appreciate, and perhaps mark a special moment in time.

A Moment in Time – 9:16 a.m. on 12/21/13

The next A Moment in Time is on Saturday, December 21 at 9:16 a.m.

A Moment in TimeHere is how A Moment in Time works.

1. I will provide a time–an exact moment on a specific day–for bloggers to be aware of, to think about what they are/were doing right then and whether it’s significant enough, in some way, to be written about and added to the list. Each new day and moment will be provided via a regular blog post as well as at the bottom of the A Moment in Time page.

2. Sometime after that moment passes, write your post. Title it with this format:  9:16 a .m. on 12/21/13

3. Let your readers know how to find the A Moment in Time prompt by providing a link to this post so that they can learn more about it and participate themselves. If it’s easier, just copy and paste the blurb below.

A Moment in Time is a shared blogging experience, where writers document and share their stories from the same moment on the same day. The day and time for the next A Moment in Time is posted by Randee every few days in such a way that you’ll have a heads up on the exact moment to which you need to attend and focus on and, if it’s significant in some way, write about and add to the list.

4. Add the link to your post as a comment below AND/OR include the link to this prompt post if you want your post to appear in the list of 9.16those participating. This will make it easier for others who are contributing to find and read your writing as well as for you to locate theirs.

5. Have fun! Make connections! Cherish each moment!

Feel free to reblog this post to spread the word.

10:23 p.m. on 12/6/13

in a bed

in a hotel room

snowing and a single digit outside

it’s so cold in here

even with the thermostat past ninety-five

and i can’t snuggle

alone

not even my dog

uncomfortable

won’t let my face touch the pillow

just my hair

won’t let my skin touch the blanket or the comforter

just the sheets

i assume they’ve been washed

stomach rumbles

was expecting some dinner this evening

that didn’t happen

lack of communication

too cold to go out and get some

wifi isn’t working

lamp is too low, too dim to read by

so i just lie here

immobilized

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While I’m here in this motel room, my daughter is in the hotel meeting room. She’s mingling with inbounders and rebounders and other outbound candidates like herself. It’s District Rotary Youth Exchange weekend. She and 39 other candidates from across the state are vying for 28 available spots in 20 different countries.RYE

Inbounders are exchange students from other countries who have landed in the state of Colorado. They’re here, at this weekend event, as ambassadors to their community and country. Tomorrow they will “sell” their country, trying to get the candidates to list it as one of the top five places to which they’d like to be assigned.

Rebounders are students from our state who were abroad last school year and are now back at their local high school. They attend to talk about their experience and answer any questions the candidates and/or their parents may have.

Outbounders are what the 40 candidates hope to be – leaving their family, house, school, friends, and community for the life-changing opportunity to be a foreign exchange student.

Also here this weekend are more than 50 Rotarians from around the state. They will observe the candidates all weekend as they participate in structured activities and less structured social time. And they will conduct 120 interviews, two with each candidate and one with each candidate’s parent(s).

After a three-hour parent meeting this evening, I have much to consider as I lie here–cold, hungry, alone, uncomfortable–but all I can think about is what my daughter, if granted this opportunity, might feel like those first few nights that she lies in a strange bed, in someone else’s house, on the other side of the world, a new family to get to know, with cultural and language barriers, an ocean away from her people, her home, her life, the bed that has held her all these years.

How will her poem read?

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A Moment in Time is a shared blogging experience, where writers document and share their stories from the same moment on the same day. The day and time for the next A Moment in Time is posted by Randee every few days in such a way that you’ll have a heads up on the exact moment to which you need to attend and focus on and, if it’s significant in some way, write about and add to the list.

To read what others were doing at this moment in time, click on the link below. And, think about participating in the next moment in time.  🙂

https://randeebergen.wordpress.com/2013/12/04/a-moment-in-time-1023-p-m-on-12613/

A Moment in Time – 6:58 p.m. on 12/14/13

The next A Moment in Time is on Saturday, December 14 at 6:58 p.m.

A Moment in TimeHere is how A Moment in Time works.

1. I will provide a time–an exact moment on a specific day–for bloggers to be aware of, to think about what they are/were doing right then and whether it’s significant enough, in some way, to be written about and added to the list. Each new day and moment will be provided via a regular blog post as well as at the bottom of the A Moment in Time page.

2. Sometime after that moment passes, write your post. Title it with this format:  6:58 p.m. on 12/14/13

3. Let your readers know how to find the A Moment in Time prompt by providing a link to this post so that they can learn more about it and participate themselves. If it’s easier, just copy and paste the blurb below.

A Moment in Time is a shared blogging experience, where writers document and share their stories from the same moment on the same day. The day and time for the next A Moment in Time is posted by Randee every few days in such a way that you’ll have a heads up on the exact moment to which you need to attend and focus on and, if it’s significant in some way, write about and add to the list.

4. Add the link to your post as a comment below AND/OR include the link to this prompt post if you want your post to appear in the list of 6.58those participating. This will make it easier for others who are contributing to find and read your writing as well as for you to locate theirs.

5. Have fun! Make connections! Cherish each moment!

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A Moment in Time – 10:23 p.m. on 12/6/13

The next A Moment in Time is on Friday, December 6, at 10:23 p.m.

A Moment in TimeHere is how A Moment in Time works.

1. I will provide a time–an exact moment on a specific day–for bloggers to be aware of, to think about what they are/were doing right then and whether it’s significant enough, in some way, to be written about and added to the list. Each new day and moment will be provided via a regular blog post as well as at the bottom of the A Moment in Time page.

2. Sometime after that moment passes, write your post. Title it with this format:  10:23 p.m. on 12/6/13

3. Let your readers know how to find the A Moment in Time prompt by providing a link to this post so that they can learn more about it and participate themselves. If it’s easier, just copy and paste the blurb below.

A Moment in Time is a shared blogging experience, where writers document and share their stories from the same moment on the same day. The day and time for the next A Moment in Time is posted by Randee every few days in such a way that you’ll have a heads up on the exact moment to which you need to attend and focus on and, if it’s significant in some way, write about and add to the list.

4. Add the link to your post as a comment below AND/OR include the link to this prompt post if you want your post to appear in the list of 10.23those participating. This will make it easier for others who are contributing to find and read your writing as well as for you to locate theirs.

5. Have fun! Make connections! Cherish each moment!

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7:11 p.m. on 12/3/13

This evening between 6:32 p.m.and 8:19 p.m. I was catching up with a friend whom I hadn’t seen in several weeks. We talked nonstop about relationships–with men, kids, friends, extended family–and about budgets–the choices we make and living within our means.

Prior to meeting up with her I was shopping with my youngest teenager. She will be participating in the next step of the Rotary Youth Exchange application process, which is a weekend-long event this coming weekend. Nice clothes are required, something other than jeans, baggy sweaters, and Vans. She will be judged (literally) from the moment she walks into the hotel on Friday evening until she leaves on Sunday afternoon. So we were shopping for dress pants, skirts, blouses, sweaters or blazers, appropriate shoes, tights, and other accessories.

As I went in to meet my friend, I got a text from Jim. Didja get Amers all decked out for this weekend? I quickly texted him back. Yes! A couple hundred dollars and two hours later.

As I visited with my friend, I checked my phone a few times, keeping an eye on the time, and making sure that my daughters didn’t need me for anything. My friend reads my blog and she knew that 7:11 was the next Moment in Time. “I wonder what we’ll be talking about at 7:11?” she asked.  “I better make sure it’s nothing too personal!”

“Oh, don’t worry. What we’re talking about won’t necessarily correlate with what I end up writing. I won’t know the significance of the moment until I sit down and write about it.”

At one point, when I looked at my phone, it was 6:51 and the screen on my phone was blank–no new texts or Facebook messages. The next 7.11time I checked, it was 7:21. 7:11 had come and gone. It would be easy enough to recall what we’d been discussing at 7:11. But when I looked at my phone that second time, at 7:21, there was a text on the screen, from Jim, a continuation of the conversation we’d been having about the shopping. I realized the text probably came in around 7:11.

Sweet! I’ve heard that raising children is expensive. I’m glad that you are making that experience PRICELESS.

(Yes, he’s a gem.)

My friend had been talking about whether she could realistically afford an upcoming trip and Jim had been commenting about the cost of raising children.

As I write this, I realize that at 7:11 p.m. on 12/3/13 I, myself, was not particularly concerned about money. I don’t want to imply that I don’t have a monthly budget to stick to (I do) or that I don’t find the cost of children overwhelming (I do). It’s just that at that moment on that day, my money issues were not on my mind. And though a budget is something I tend to daily, I do not have to worry, daily, about where the next meal is coming from or whether I can put gas in the car.

And I’ll tell you why. It’s because my ex-husband works hard and pays a respectable amount of child support. He pays it unfailingly every month and I rely on it to provide my daughters with more than the basic shelter, food, and clothing. My daughter would not have gotten the three dressy outfits she needed if it weren’t for child support. Heck, she wouldn’t even be applying to be a foreign exchange student. Nor would she be on the swim team or have taken the driver’s education course or have a smart phone with a data plan. And my other daughter? Probably no choir. No phone. No car. No weekend trip to look at colleges. And, a really scary thought–probably no college if it weren’t for her father who’s been tucking away money for her education.

Yes, our lives, especially theirs, would be quite a bit different if it weren’t for the monetary contributions made by their father.

I have a teaching career and, with 23 years experience and two advanced degrees, make a decent salary. But it would not be enough to raise the girls on, if that’s all we had.

Well, I shouldn’t say that. There are parents out there raising their kids on much less. My heart goes out to them. I know they have to make tough choices every day.

Jim implied in his text that I was ensuring that my daughters’ upbringing was priceless, that they have some opportunities to experience some things that many other kids do not. He’s right. I am. They do.

But it’s not me who’s “making that experience PRICELESS” in the literal sense. It’s their father.

Sure, I do the legwork and the running around and the organizing. I contribute the time, the energy, the love. But it’s because of him that a lot of this stuff can happen financially.

At 7:11 p.m. on 12/3/13, or around then, a kind and thoughtful text was sent to me,  a text that got me thinking about something. I am grateful, so, so grateful for the support that my girls receive from their father. He may not do things as I would, he may not be as involved in their lives as I’d like him to be, but he does support his daughters in the way that works best for him.

So this moment, 7:11 on 12/3/13, is dedicated to my friend and daughters and significant other and a father. And, of course, to PRICELESS moments.

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A Moment in Time is a shared blogging experience, where writers document and share their stories from the same moment on the same day. The day and time for the next A Moment in Time is posted by Randee every few days in such a way that you’ll have a heads up on the exact moment to which you need to attend and focus on and, if it’s significant in some way, write about and add to the list.

To read others’ moments in time:

https://randeebergen.wordpress.com/2013/12/02/a-moment-in-time-711-p-m-on-12313/

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